The "Slut"

So when I was about to write this blog about not slut shaming, I was getting caught up in the first word of the topic, something that I feel is hardly acknowledged. We support "sluts" and their decisions while everyone else dehumanizes them... but do we actually know what we're doing? Aren't we just perpetuating the stereotype that we hate? A slut isn't a type of person, it's a societal stereotype. By saying "we don't slut shame", we're saying there is someone to shame... the slut. But who is she? Anyone you want her to be really. Anyone you paint a slut in your mind is a slut in the real world. Essentially, that's what we revert to, isn't it? "I don't like to have threesomes, have multiple partners, do BDSM, take nude pictures or videos etc., and any woman who does must be loose - a total slut." Then we dismiss any pain she may be going through, degrade and dehumanize her and don't feel another thing about it because we're moral and she, in our eyes, is not. And a simple hashtag or verbal label is all that is needed to brand the woman you merely disagree with sexually as nothing but a low brow whore. Because that's all it is anyway, a personal opinion accepted by the majority. I'm (still) not about slut shaming, but I'm also not about dehumanizing women based on their personal sexual decisions. A woman making her own, consensual, sexual choices that you disagree with does not maker her a "slut", it makes her a human being, making choices... like everyone.